There are certain elements that prove to be present in happy people’s lives. If you make sure you have some of each of these elements in your life on a regular basis, you will become a happier person. A flourishing and fulfilling life has the elements below.
Try to experience:
1. Pleasure in your every day life
2. Engagement in what you do, so you can feel flow
The nine elements of flow:
1. There are clear goals every step of the way
2. There is immediate feedback to one’s action
3. There is a balance between challenges and skills
4. Action and awareness are merged
5. Distractions are excluded from consciousness
6. There is no worry of failure
7. Self-consciousness disappears
8. The sense of time becomes distorted
9. The activity becomes “auto telic” (an end in itself, done for its own sake)
3. Relationships with family and friends
From the time you are born, to the time you die, all the people you spent our life with, whom you touched and who touched you, you had some kind of relationship with.
Relationships can bring us utter happiness and joy, and – unfortunately – the opposite. They can create hell in our lives. Relationships bring out the good and the bad in us. It brings out laughter’s and tears. Important relationships need to be nourished. Some of the people we have a relationship with will be with us until the day we die.
4. Meaning in your everyday life
To some people it means being a part of a big organization, to others nature, the universe or religion. You have to find what it is for you. Finding meaning will most likely improve your happiness, wellbeing and satisfaction in life.
5. Accomplishments of goals
6. Gratitude for everything you are and have
Gratitude is the shortcut to happiness. It can shift your mood from being dissatisfied and grumpy to feeling content and happy. If you spend a few moments every day to be grateful and to really feel the gratitude inside, you will soon notice a change in your happiness level.
When you are truly grateful for everything you are and everything you have, and all the pleasures you have experienced in your life, you will soon start to feel better about your life. If you find it challenging, then start by being grateful for all the bad things that didn’t happen and didn’t go wrong when it could have.
Tip: Write a gratitude journal as often as you feel like it. This journal is great to come back to when you are feeling dissatisfied. It is so easy to forget everything you can be grateful for, and this journal will remind you.
To sum it up
So, as you see, being able to sprinkle your every day with a few bodily pleasures and surprises, doing some gratifying activities that creates flow, throwing in some good deeds for others, spending time with family and friends, and making sure you are experiencing frequent moments of gratitude – will be rewarding. If you in addition can cram in some sense of belonging to something larger than yourself while accomplishing a few goals, you are in good shape for enjoying true and lasting happiness.